He wasn't unattractive or poorly dressed, really, but sported a head full of styled knots, of the type only suitable in African American hair, that were somehow incongruous with his navy blue, ironed golf shirt, cotton dockers, and too-white sneakers.

We were at the next table, having our usual post-church lunch at a favorite cafe, but our conversation had dropped into nothingness, as happens sometimes when you've been married forever, and are more focussed on eating than enterainment. I think if we'd been talking we might not have noticed him.

He was alone, technically, though you'd never have guessed it from listening, for he was having an animated conversation, complete with tonal changes signifying both questions and answers, though, only his half was audible.

No, he wasn't on a cell phone.

Like Anne Shirley's “window friend,” this man's lunch companion was his own reflection in the tinted glass that faced the parking lot.

We were slightly creeped out, but he seemed happy enough, really.

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New Friends

It's taken a year, but I finally got to meet . She's very sweet, and an amazing baker, and her husband and sister are much fun. (He, btw, is the third of the three amazing photographers I know, two of whom are local.)

So many things from Ms. Eclectic's blog and conversations clicked into place after spending an evening with them and their (and Ms. Eclectic's) friend whom they all call Missy J, and I'll refer to simply as J. In-jokes, references, etc. I really hope we'll get together again, both because we need more couple-friends, and because they're all such funny, smart, creative people.

I've been introduced to Shadows over Camelot which is described as a collaberative board game, but I prefer to describe it as a cooperative board game with light roleplay opportunities. It was fun, if a little confusing, and I'd love to play it again.

(I think this group might respond well to Munchkin, also.)

Anyway, it's 12:30, but, an evening out with great food, and new friends, and new experiences, and an extremely friendly uber-quiet dogling, is both “how I spent my Saturday evening” and my (late) Happiness Challenge #13.

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